Saturday Six: Episode #251

Can you believe it’s already the end of January? This month has moved by pretty quickly. At this rate, it’ll be summer time in no time. I’m ready for that!

In the meantime, I offer another set of questions for your amusement.

1. What is more important to you: your relationship with yourself or your relationship with those who are close to you?

Both are very important, but I would say that if your relationship with yourself is not good, then you are not in a position to have a good relationship with others. How would you do that? So many things are items that you need to be able to reconcile with yourself. And while it is always good to have friends/family to talk to, you still need to have made basic peace with yourself to do it.

2. Which of the above do you tend to have the least problem cultivating?

Mmmmm. I don't know. Sometimes it easy to reconcile those things that happen with myself; sometimes it is easier to do it with others. That is a very subjective question, I think, and different situations and issues have different answers to it.

3. Something goes wrong in your life. Of the people you are most likely to turn to, are they the same gender as you or the opposite?

Well, usually I'm closest with those of the opposite sex, but I think right now, it is an evenly balanced set up. I talk to everyone about things that are happening in my life, good and bad. I find that being open and honest about things lightens the load.

4. Something goes wrong in a close friend’s life and you’re the person that friend chooses to call first. Is that person likely to be the same gender as you or the opposite?

Well, it's usually my father. So gender does not make a difference.

5. Take the quiz: What Makes You a Good Friend?
If your friend told you something about themselves that was quite shameful, you would:
Tell them what you honestly think about it, even your opinion is harsh
Make a joke about it to lighten the mood
Just listen in a non judgmental way
Change the subject to something more comfortable
Tell them it's okay, and you're still their friend
Tell them that you understand, and try to help them figure out how to get past it

You have a falling out with your best friend, and you haven't heard from them in few weeks. You:
Move on... the drama probably isn't worth it
Write your friend an email about what happened, and open a non confrontational discussion on how to improve your friendship
Invite your friend out to do something special
Call your friend and say that you're ready to talk
Send your friend a little gift with a hand written note apologizing, even if it wasn't completely your fault
Tell your friend that not talking hurts, and hash out the unpretty details of your fight

Your friend is wearing something completely hideous and inappropriate. Do you say anything?
Yes, you would tell them that they look crazy!
No, but you may remember to get your friend some new clothes for Christmas
You would kindly suggest changing a couple things about it
No, and you'll stick up for your friend if someone makes fun of their outfit
You wouldn't even notice
You would poke a little fun at their outfit, but only in the sweetest way

Someone accuses your friend of a pretty serious crime, but the evidence is sort of shaky. How do you respond?
You help your friend get a lawyer and work through this
You accept that your friend may have done this, but stick by them anyway
You distance yourself from the situation... too sketchy
You are there for your friend with funny DVD's, ice cream, and any other fun distraction
You stick up for your friend to anyone and everyone who brings it up
You flat out ask your friend if they did it, and tell them what other people are saying

What's a friend most likely to say to you?
"Thanks for helping me through things."
"Thanks for being honest with me about this."
"Thanks for the great time!"
"Thanks for all you've done for me"
"Thanks for... well, nothing."
"Thanks for not judging me."

You Are a Good Friend Because You're Supportive
You are almost like a life coach for your best friends. You give them help when they need it... but you also know when to give them a push. People tend to rely on you for moral support and advice. You've probably always been mature for your age, so this is a role that's you're comfortable with.

A friend like you is one of the rarest kinds. You are both a good mentor and companion. Your friends need you most when: they are confused or worried.

You really can't be friends with: Someone who only wants to complain
Your friendship quote: "The only way to have a friend is to be one."

6. What single trait listed in the response to question #5 would your closest friend most agree with?

I don't know, I guess I'd say, "People tend to rely on you for moral support and advice". Certainly this is true at work.